Mary Kay

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05:00 pm: Worldcon
As usual, traveling from West to East was a major pain. At least we were in 1st class from Denver on. There are never 1st class upgrades available out of Seattle I don't know why. Also, an extremely obnoxious and officious gate agent required Jordin to check his guitar. The only time that has ever happened before was when it wouldn't fit in the overheads -- which is a very limited selection of airplanes. And after that, the overheads weren't even full!

We got into Boston fairly late in the evening and checked into the hotel without any problems. After depositing luggage in the room, we hit the bar. First person I saw was Mark Olson who introduced us to Colin Harris, next year's co-chair. Colin noted he'd been talking about Jordin only the day before. Discussing science programming apparently. Also chatted with [info]smofbabe, Ian, and others. Since they had all been working hard all day and expected to the next, the party broke up relatively early.

Since we were still on West Coast time, we had trouble sleeping and didn't wake up until noon on Wednesday. We grabbed a hamburger in the hotel coffee shop -- and a dreadful hamburger it was too. Not so bad as the one in Bristol that time, but pretty bad. Jordin had found out the evening before that NASA liked an idea he suggested to them and they wanted a formal 40 page proposal by the end of September, so he was running around trying to organize stuff with the other members of the team who are spread all over the US. I went shopping. We also picked up our registration stuff and the electric scooter I had arranged to rent.

I got lost trying to find Shaws because the instructions the concierge gave me sucked. It would have been much easier, and cooler, if she'd sent me through the mall instead of outside and around. But I did find it and did most of my shopping for the party there. I arranged to have it delivered to the hotel and walked down the block to the Trader Joe's. It was a Very Small TJ's and they didn't have some of my favorite stuff, but I picked up a few things there and went back to the hotel just in time to receive the delivery from Shaws.

After that Wednesday gets lamentably fuzzy. I remember being in the bar at one point and I think Jordin and I ate at the food court in the mall. I know I stopped at Chico's on the way back and bought a black blouse to wear with my corset because I had forgotten the one I usually bring to wear with it. There was a party in the con suite for committee and staff to meet the GOHs, for which Terry Pratchett neglected to show up, much to the disappointment of many people. I sat on my little scooter and talked with whomever was walking by and we had a fine time.

Alas, we still had trouble sleeping on Wednesday, which made getting up in time to meet [info]ckd challenging. He ran me around to the big Whole Foods and TJs in Cambridge where I bought the alcoholic supplies for the party and a few other items I hadn't gotten the day before. I checked into the suite and posted the party room online and on the party board. And went around handing out cards to folks with the room number. I was afraid we wouldn't get many people because I had so little time to let folks know. Ha ha ha. Hollow laughter.

I started party prep aided by [info]dlacey, [info]kate_nepveu, her husband Chad, blogger Charles Dodgson, and [info]tammylc I think. I had to run off in costume just before 7pm to do the Terry Pratchett trial. I was Nanny Ogg, all in black, with pointy hat, red and white striped stockings, and red boots. My electric cart had signs that read, "Nanny's broomstick. Kepe off." I left those on for the whole con. When I got the the site of said activity, I asked the moderator what the plan was and he said there wasn't one, just wing it. So we did and had a great time. Though I'm not sure the mothers in the audience appreciated my rendition of Nanny's most famous song. Terry was convicted and sentenced to sign books. Which he did all weekend.

I raced back to finish helping with set up to discover that [info]dlacey had done just about everything! A bunch of us just sat and relaxed until it was time to open the door at 9pm. Well, I left a bit before then as I was scheduled for the reading of absent authors. It seemed like a good idea when I suggested it, but only a few people showed up. When I got back to the party it was in full cry and boy was it loud!

Turns out that in addition to being one of the few parties that night, we were the only ones with any alcohol, so it vanished quick as quick. I hadn't the heart to declare it a closed party and only allow in people with blogs or LJs like I might should have. At any rate, there were many people present -- should I try to list them I'll leave out someone so I won't. Long about 12:00 we started making cleanup motions. [info]trinker, [info]betnoir, and [info]aiglet were of inestimable help in cleanup as was my sweetie. Finally around 1am I announced that anyone left in the room in 5 minutes had to help finish the cleanup and it cleared out right quick. We finished the cleanup and collapsed into bed around 1:30. I so appreciate all the people who helped with party prep, funding, cleanup, and hosting. You're just mahvelous! Probably my highlight for the evening was meeting the members of my cleanup crew as listed above, after years of knowing them only online. Golly we had fun!

Current Mood: jubilant

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From:[info]orzelc
Date:September 9th, 2004 05:08 pm (UTC)
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Turns out that in addition to being one of the few parties that night, we were the only ones with any alcohol, so it vanished quick as quick.

A special Award of Merit should go to Charlie and Feorag (whose LJ usernames I can't be bothered to look up), who showed up with an extra case and a half of beer, prolonging the party by another hour or so.
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From:[info]ckd
Date:September 9th, 2004 05:41 pm (UTC)
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They're [info]autopope and [info]feorag, respectively.
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From:[info]kate_nepveu
Date:September 9th, 2004 06:13 pm (UTC)
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Don't forget [info]fluffcthulhu.

And how can you throw con parties without alcohol?
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From:[info]zencuppa
Date:September 9th, 2004 06:51 pm (UTC)
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I am glad the LJ party went well :-)

I am still drooling over the "poisonberry" necklace, BTW ..
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From:[info]von_krag
Date:September 9th, 2004 08:23 pm (UTC)
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If I ever do parties at a con again I want both you and Gerri Sullivan as Heads. Man this sounded like a real wingding.
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From:[info]crazysoph
Date:September 10th, 2004 02:06 am (UTC)
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Was there in spirit, even though my bod was in Dublin.

Crazy(*sniffle*)Soph
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From:[info]dlacey
Date:September 10th, 2004 06:18 am (UTC)
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I'm sure I'm not the only person for whom this party was one of the highlights of Worldcon. It was a great time.
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From:[info]pnh
Date:September 10th, 2004 08:17 pm (UTC)
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It was a fabulous party, and reminded me more of fanzine fandom at its best than any number of other parties I've been to in the last decade.
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From:[info]marykaykare
Date:September 10th, 2004 08:53 pm (UTC)
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Umm, "Thank you," she said covered in blushing confusion. Maybe I won't send you the 4 stuffed raccoons after all.

MKK
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From:[info]trinker
Date:September 11th, 2004 08:37 am (UTC)
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Wow.

Wow. I'm glad you wrote that, because...as a younger fan*, my impression of fanzine fandom has, alas, not been as good as I might have wished it to be...


* in my third decade, but still, some (zinesters?) have had a way of making me feel like the snot-nosed youngest sibling who isn't wanted at the party, or at least came too late to be part of the good times.
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From:[info]pnh
Date:September 11th, 2004 09:24 am (UTC)
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Unfortunately, I suspect that making some people feel put off is a nearly inevitable side effect of any social group, formal or informal; and the longer that social group is around, the more opportunities there are to make some folks feel rebuffed and rejected.

I've seen this happen on the edges of fanzine fandom because some people are snots; I've also seen it happen because some people are way too good at deciding they've been rejected. (In basketball the term is "throwing yourself to the court and crying foul.") I personally have been accused of all varieties of snobbishness, elitism, and mopery in the spaceways for things I did because I was (1) distracted or (2) having trouble hearing or (3) extremely tired or (4) confused or (5) having a bout of feeling extremely shy. That last is important. At any given time, a lot of the people most obviously enjoying themselves in the middle of any fannish clique, no matter how seemingly glamorous and in-crowdy the clique, are there because they're a bit awkward and shy in real-world social interactions, and if they seem a bit gormlessly smug or overbearing in their cliqueishness it may well simply be because they're not masters of the nuances of human socialization. I know this certainly applies to me.

I was deeply involved in fanzine fandom for years; it's where most of my oldest friendships come from, and it's where I met my wife. I don't mean to gainsay it. It's just that MKK's LJ/blogger party reminded me of what it was like back when it was more full of energy and more central to fandom overall.
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From:[info]marykaykare
Date:September 11th, 2004 10:07 am (UTC)
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I've also seen it happen because some people are way too good at deciding they've been rejected. (In basketball the term is "throwing yourself to the court and crying foul.")

Hey, I resemble that remark!

(5) having a bout of feeling extremely shy. That last is important. At any given time, a lot of the people most obviously enjoying themselves in the middle of any fannish clique, no matter how seemingly glamorous and in-crowdy the clique, are there because they're a bit awkward and shy in real-world social interactions, and if they seem a bit gormlessly smug or overbearing in their cliqueishness it may well simply be because they're not masters of the nuances of human socialization. I know this certainly applies to me.

That one too. One of my favorite memories of this year's worldcon was the time I spent with a bunch of the younger members of our family one evening in the bar. I was quite chuffed they seemed to want to include me in their little group of young and exciting folks. Giggle. That means you [info]trinker and [info]aiglet and the other folks in that gathering!

MKK
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From:[info]trinker
Date:September 11th, 2004 10:18 am (UTC)
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-grin-

Mary Kay, do you know how absolutely cool I think it is that you enjoyed being there in that bar as much as I enjoyed being there myself, and as much as I enjoyed having you there as part of the experience? (oh, dear, that sentence doesn't read well in text. oh well.)

There is something to the idea that maybe if we all work on the present rather than wistfully wishing for past glory, that today will be as good as any "good old days". Being careful, meanwhile, not to dismiss the past, because that was good, too.
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From:[info]betnoir
Date:September 11th, 2004 11:44 am (UTC)
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It was lovely, yes!

And quite silly, with all of us comparing feetsies. :>

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From:[info]trinker
Date:September 11th, 2004 10:12 am (UTC)
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I don't tend to think of myself as hypersensitive to rejection. Your point 5, however...yes, that's one that I sometimes need reminding of. It's not generally one of my issues, except in very specific instances. (Generally a case of "I know that I feel like I know this person because they have a public face which appears to be very open and sharing, but they know very little about me, so...")

I don't find fanzine fandom glamorous...It's not that I want desperately to participate (and I should also note that there are fanzine notables who've suggested explicitly that I would be welcome there if I made the effort), but rather than I want to be able to participate in places where both fanzine folks and what might be termed post-fanzine folks can interact without sneering on either side.

I appreciated your "reminded me" comment precisely because it helped me understand better that yes, there was a then, there is a now, some parts are alike. It was really nice hearing that MKK's party was a bit like the best bits of that time.
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From:[info]marykaykare
Date:September 11th, 2004 10:01 am (UTC)
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Well, just think of those folks as embittered old farts who are angry that their favorite thing is no longer the center of fannish life. Their apparent disapproval is really jealousy and disappointment. They aren't having fun and you are.

MKK
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From:[info]trinker
Date:September 11th, 2004 10:05 am (UTC)
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*laugh* Have I mentioned, dear Mary Kay, that I'm glad you're not an embittered old fart?
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From:[info]betnoir
Date:September 11th, 2004 11:37 am (UTC)
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Glad to be on the clean-up crew.

I feel that it is only the polite thing to do - help Le Hostess clean up afterward. :>

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